Monday, September 17, 2012

THIS MARRIAGE THING

The marriage topic is interesting an can also be sensitive too. Lately most couples have been making unanimous decisions to get married and thereby increasing the amount of ankara i have decide to accumulate as aso ebi in my closet. It is a blessing to support couples who have made the big decision to do life together forever but really how long is that forever. Apart from the vows one will give at the altar "for better for worse" "for richer and for poor" "in sickness and in in health", "till death do us (them)part, how many of these vow actually last forever. I don't know if some people actually sit down to think out the significance of these vows before getting married or are those words just part of the ceremony, it is a question because nowadays ladies are most especially interested in getting the ring, putting on a dress and having a grand wedding reception and dealing with the real meaning of the vows later. If he/she experiences job loss, will you be there? If the spouse becomes disfigured through an accident, will the love remain undying.In times of adversity, the true character of a person comes out. Looking back at my parents and grandparents generation and doing statistics or mathematics, whichever one is correct, 96% of the married couple in their time are still together and the 2% experienced divorce, the other 2% experienced death that did them part. So why is our generation experiencing a higher rate of divorce,to the point that celebrity couples will no longer be role models for me(they have never been anyway),our generation is failing at this thing seriously, i don't know the secret to generations past but i think we need to buckle up if not we will have no legacy to leave for our own kids. The effort to make a marriage work has to come from both parties and back then i believe that if a marriage did not work it was the woman's fault because she had to keep her man and home together, nowadays neither party cared about who made it work or not, in the Western world if a marriage did not work, the man would move out of his own house and the woman would be accommodated in the house and her expenses will be taken care of in the form of alimony.As far back as i know divorce was rare, death was the ultimate dissolution of marriage. Couples were faithful, vows were revered so why is this generation that has smartphones, Google and wireless devices failing in the institution called marriage. But Why??

Friday, August 24, 2012

A GREAT SUMMER READ

Master of the Game is well written book by Sidney Sheldon about wealth that goes down to four generations, a twisted plot of wealth, deceit,love.Ooooohhh a page turner,that goes well with a glass of lemonade, i dont want to spoil this for anyone, its awesome. The generation of characters got better and better on each page turn.

Saturday, June 9, 2012

SPARE THE ROD AND SPOIL THE CHILD

The things that are happening these days are very ridiculous, compared to the days of age when I was born and raised, some of the things that these younglings do these days, one cant try it in the days of old. Back in the late 80s and early 90s when I was growing up, my mom would only give an instruction once, if she had to repeat herself, it would be with "koboko". For me it was not necessarily the cane itself, "koboko" could be a dirty slap, the soles of my moms shoes, any wooden spoon used in making fufu or garri or the twigs from the trees in the garden, the fear of those things alone was the beginning of wisdom for me. There was this fear that parents invested in their children, the fear of "if you mess up you are dead", these days it is the children who run things, some parents cant even correct their own children, the kids are remote controlling their parents. I met a parent who could not even tell her daughter "no". She always told her "yes" as if it was a prescription drug.Bullshit. Lets come back to 2012. I believe in discipline, it worked for me, it is going to work for my kids and the rest of my generation.Amen. I also believe it is going to work for yours.Any child that says I will not sleep will not sleep too.Last night I was checking my email on Yahoo and on Yahoo news I read that Creflo Dollar got arrested. I didnt want to read the news at first because the usual pastor drama was no longer news to me but it was not the usual pastor drama. He got arrested because he was trying to discipline his fifteen year old daughter who had bad grades a school and wanted to go to a party. Okay stop right there.I don't care how he disciplined her oh!! If that were my daughter and i got arrested for trying to choke sense into her numb skull, she should get ready to change address by the time i come back. Do you see what the system is doing? Encouraging kids to mess up,that's why the prisons are full and the school campuses are empty. Children are quick to call the cops because the system protects them but in the long run they are the ones who suffer in the end. If my child is quick to call the cops because i refused to allow her get her way, the way that makes her self destruct, that would be fine but after the police case is over the child should figure out who the new mom would be because i would be so "brand new"if the system terms me as not fit to raise my child and they decide to take the child away, i would gladly pack the clothes. My future children when you read this particular blog and page, i mean every word i have said. If another woman would treat you better than your own mother, i wish you the best of luck.If you misbehave, i will flog daylight out of your body and i will give you the phone to call the cops if you like but remember if you get arrested, you only get one phone call,let it not be my number.

Sunday, April 8, 2012

THE SUNGLASSES SYNDROME.


When the solar eclipse came I didn’t use sunglasses to observe it so why in the world am I going to wear sunglasses at night or indoors for an extended period of time.
Like seriously, unless you have serious eye sensitivity to light or stone drunk, why in the world would you wear sunglasses at night? I wear sunglasses during the day and in my car while driving to protect my eyes from the glaring rays of the sun.Why would I punish myself and wear them indoors inside a night club with neon and disco ball lights on? Literally I would interpret it as temporary blindness.
It is a form of fashion these days to wear sunglasses at night, like swag. In my own opinion, it is not very appealing,I can tolerate when people wear sunglasses indoors because they either have “pink eye”, they got into a fight or they simply forgot to take them off. Sunglasses are usually on sale during winter months, in that bleak murky weather, why do I find people rocking them like the sun is putting focus beams on them? Unless you look super duper good in the sunshades and they look like they have become a part of your face please don’t try to rock them inside a dark night club or inside an office building.
If you are not Lady Gaga, PDiddy, Kanye West or Anna Wintour please don’t wear sunglasses at night.Please!!!!!!!

Thursday, April 5, 2012

OIKOS UNIVERSITY SHOOTING

It was a beautiful Monday morning, the day after April Fools day, one would have thought of what happened to be a sick joke to continue the first but in this case, it isnt, it is not a bad dream either that one can wake up from, this is reality. People woke up that morning to go about their daily business, some were able to go back home and recount their daily activities to their families over table at dinner or family time and loved ones ended up in morgue. The latter is what happened to seven students who were killed at Oikos University student shooting which occurred on Monday April 2nd by deranged 43 year old man known as One Goh who was upset about his denial for getting a refund of his tuition back after her "voluntarily left" the school located in Alameda County. He opened fire on both students and teachers. Goh is accused of killing Katleen Ping, 24, of Oakland; Tshering Rinzing Bhutia, 38, of San Francisco; Judith Seymour, 53, of San Jose; Sim, 21, of Hayward; Sonam Choedon, 33, of El Cerrito; Grace Eunhea Kim, 23, of Union City; and Doris Chibuko, 40, of San Leandro. He is being charged with manslaughter. This senseless killing affected a Nigerian in the American Community who had come to get a better life. Doris Chibuko of San Leandro, a 40 year old lady who was about two months away from graduating from Oikos University as a nurse was senselessly killed on Monday morning.Goh made her husband a widow and her three children ages 8, 5 and 3 motherless. The fact that Goh could not get his $19000 tuition money back did not warrant the killing of the seven people. He could have filed a law suit but taking the lives of innocent people whose lives are priceless was not the way forward, he is being held without bail at Santa Rita jail with a trial to be held on April 30. He was known to not be able to get along with women and also people in general, he had abnormal behavioral problems. Goh's main target was a female administrator who fled the scene and is in perfect condition.A prayer goes out to the families of those who lost their loved ones in the senseless killing. I hope the Chibuko family will be comforted in this very difficult time. I hope justice will be duly served. Sources: San Francisco Gate Us News MSNBC

Saturday, March 24, 2012

MY BIRTHDAY


I thank God for adding another year to my life. I thank God for all my accomplishments, my family and friends. Its my birthday. Catch me at Disneyland and California Adventure this weekend. 6 hour drive to Anaheim. Pics coming soon....

Monday, March 19, 2012

THE BLOGGER STAMP OF APPEAL


I found out that I got awarded Most Versatile blogger and I would love to thank Chocolate Diva. ,for the nomination. I am blushing. This is my first nomination oh, yes!!!,no!!!! Actually it it the second one,but I am grateful though to my readers for the support.
I am going to nominate fifteen top blogs that I love to read.
1.Linda ikeji http://www.lindaikeji.blogspot.com/
2. Verastic http://verastic.com/

3. Memories of a woman with chutzpah http://chocolatechutzpah.wordpress.com/2012/02/
4.Light her lamp http://www.lightherlamp.com/
5. Atilola Writes http://atilola.blogspot.com/
6. Give me back my five bucks http://www.givemebackmyfivebucks.com/
7. Musings,illusions and delusions http://honeydame1.blogspot.com/
8. Myne Whitman http://www.mynewhitmanwrites.com/
9. Chocolate Diva http://iamnotevensure.blogspot.com/
10.Smile of the Nigerian Scorpio
11. Stellas Addiction http://www.stellasaddiction.com/
12. Goodnaija girl http://goodnaijagirl.com/
13. Black Girls are easy http://blackgirlsareeasy.com/
14. Its Toinlicious http://toinlicious.blogspot.com/
15. Lady Ngo’sworld http://ladyngo.blogspot.com/

7 Random things about myself
1. I have a secret bra and panty fetish.I buy them like water.
2 My Kindle fire is my latest addiction and best friend.
3. Patience is not one of my virtues
4. I have a short attention span.
5. Blue is my favorite color
6.I have a great sense of humor and love making people laugh.
7. I am scared of animals and that includes house pets.

Friday, February 24, 2012

LLNP Long Life and Prosperity















A year ago, I started noticing on a common trend from my Nigerian friends when it comes to wishing people a happy birthday.  I have seen stuff like

Tara Thomas
HBD Amaka, LLNP.

Ijeoma Onyechie
Samantha HBD,LLNP




I am sorry but I naively thought that it was a form of title of some sort. You never can tell these days, Nigerians come up with something new and hip every day until I figured HBD was Happy birthday but LLNP meant what? On Amaka’s wall I saw the word LLNP so many times so I decided to ask someone and they told me it meant “Long life and prosperity”. * the light bulb comes on in my head*
In my own opinion it is a birthday wish, you might as well write out the whole word especially if it is heartfelt, Face book has made it easy for one to wish people a happy birthday even when you don’t remember all you need to do is glance at the “Birthdays” section on you Face book page and alas you know whose birthday it is and start typing, HBD, LLNP. Hmm.
Just to let you know, I wont do that to you. So when it is your birthday you would receive at least a 15 word birthday greeting.
I don’t know how you feel about the abbreviation of a birthday greeting, it doesn’t seem appropriate but yet again should I say is there a proper way of wishing someone a Happy Birthday? I want to know what you think.
By the way I went to the Timaya concert last weekend and I got a copy of his cd called LLNP. I just looked at the CD an hour ago and realized that. What an irony? Happy Friday everyone.


Wednesday, February 15, 2012

GENDER,AGE AND MARRIAGE, A DOUBLE STANDARD!!!!!!!!!

It is very obvious that there is so much double standard in society today and men and women alike are victims of the double standard. A certain gender has to do one thing while the other is exempt and vice versa. Who is responsible for these double standards, the finger will always point to society but I think it starts with each individual. You cannot keep blaming society for your own problems when you can actually fix them or at least make a difference to your own circumstance. There are a lot of them in society so the blogpost  will come in parts.
1.       Once past the age of twenty five, one is expected to be done with college and embarking on a rewarding career and also to embark on the MR or MRS degree with a significant other. The MRS degree seems to be the one that everyone looks forward to as in the Nigerian culture all those old aunties will see you at gatherings and start asking. Here is a typical conversation that will ensue between one of those aunties and a young girl that is past 25 or past 30

AUNTY: How are you dear, I heard you are doing your masters now
YOUNG LADY: Yes I am, I am graduating in the summer”
AUNTY: Oh really, that’s nice oh, so when are we wearing your aso ebi, when are you introducing us to the man.
YOUNG LADY: Aunty which man?
AUNTY: Do not pretend as if you don’t know what I am talking about, Julia got married last year, and Priscilla is getting married in August, so when is your wedding?
YOUNG LADY: Oh that, (with the little fake laugh) We are praying oh.
AUNTY: What type of prayer, please be quick about it, how old are you now? 26? 27?
YOUNG LADY:I am 29.
AUNTY:  Oh 29, Bring him home quick so you can start having children, you know once you turn 30 , the child bearing…..

 By this time the auntie’s advice has already been tuned out. Acquire Selective hearing if you can. Imagine if it was a guy the aunty was talking to, she would not even come close to the marriage thing, this would be a typical conversation.
AUNTY: My boy, see how much you have grown. You are looking so handsome
YOUNG MAN: (Smiling) I know, thank you
AUNTY: So what are you up to these days, your mom said you are at Stanford, you are currently doing your Masters.
YOUNG MAN: Yes ma. I am also an Intern at Microsoft
AUNTY: Oh, waoh, that is very impressive, keep it up. You know nowadays your education will land you a good job, and seeing Stanford on that resume ( doing the little dance) that is guaranteed entry, keep it up my boy, next thing now we need to see your new car and house, don’t forget to invite me to the housewarming oh…..

Nonsense. Can you see what I am talking about?, the lady didn’t even mention the “F” word. Yes I said it, the F word, and take your mind out of the gutter. I meant Female. She didn’t even ask him if he had a girlfriend or if he was getting serious with anyone. Men are exempt because they are believed to be providers, they are supposed to develop their lives, have fun and date as many women as they please because their penile expiration date is much further than that of a female.The “agbaya” aunty did not even encourage the girl to have a career.  This is my own opinion and I could be wrong, times have changed, this is post World War 1 were women and children were at home cooking, cleaning and sewing, women can vote, women go to school and they can also get jobs. We should be treated equally with men. I believe that even at twenty six or twenty seven you can date, travel and enjoy life, 
Marriage is not always the ultimate thing even though society makes it so. The nuns and monks who have dedicated their service to God and have chosen not to marry are not lesser humans in that thinking, it is a personal choice. I am tired of my female friends feeling pressured because of age to get married, and then they marry and then marry the wrong person. Marry because you want to be happy, marry because you are in love with that person and you complement the person not complete the person (some people get the concept mixed up, pretty bad thinking if I must say, because if you are half of a person and the other half chooses to walk away, you are back to square one).  All eligible single ladies that cannot handle too much talk about marriage at family gatherings or parties should buy earphones or develop selective hearing. I have said my own oh!!!!!!!!!




Tuesday, February 14, 2012

I LOVE YOU

To my amazing readers and fellow bloggers who have supported me, i want you all to know that i love you with all my heart. I wish you all peace, happiness, long life and prosperity as we celebrate yet another Valentines Day. Hope you have tons of fun today and i hope to hear lovely Valentine stories at the end of the day.

Thursday, February 9, 2012

THE BRAND NAME SYNDROME

"It has to be Brazilian hair or nothing, i don't even do lace front wigs, so synthetic hair is not an option"
" She just broke my $300 Louis Vuitton glasses"

"I am sorry honey but you wont catch me with last season's Louis Vuitton purse"

"Why don't you have a Blackberry, how do you expect our relationship to work?"

" i want a pink Range Rover for my thirtieth birthday" (second year in a row she is turning 30)

"I want iPad 3 for Christmas"


Gucci, Louis Vuitton, Katie Spade, Aldo, Prada,Versace, Calvin Klein, Coach , Apple, Blackberry, Android, Brazillian Hair, Remi Hair,Mercedes, BMW, Range Rover,,, the list is endless, i could go on and on because we consumers are faced with so many Brand names and different models keep coming out and we have to keep keeping up with the brand name epidemic.
The Brand name syndrome has caught a lot of people, they are so consumed with getting a lot more of these things and  it also defines their identity. I met a fool that thought that his Louis Vuitton belt was all there was to his life and he seemed to regard people who didn't have an brand name clothing as nothing. 
A certain class of people can afford name brand things without breaking a sweat, the other class will owe money to get name brand stuff so that the can belong. The point is the first class of people have accumulated money, the other class are just trying to look like they have money, trying to impress people who don't even like them and it makes them one thing. BROKE!!!!!!!!
My own perspective on Brand Name is for one, its not a bad thing, it is absolutely and terrifically awesome if you can AFFORD it. If you can pay cash for any of the above, that will be fine.  I have come across people who will not pay off their student loans but will flash their latest Gucci sunglasses or their Louis Vuitton purse from this season at you. 
There are men who love to show high quality but these thirsty men will never buy you a drink at the club.If you check their account balance at the ATM machine, its either low or just plain broke. The funny thing is that they may have borrowed the money to get them into the club.



Some ladies drip and smell of money in their Louboutins and their Brazillian hair but they cant even pay rent,they may be paying off their acquisitions on a credit card which will take a while. 
I will not spend too much money on anything that will not appreciate in value like a house or expensive jewellery. I don't have shares with Coach or Louis Vuitton even though i like their stuff but spending $300 on sunglasses that my friend may sit on in my car and break the frames would be ridiculous. The Hair craze is also another syndrome, the most important thing you need to know whether it is synthetic, Brazillian, Indian Remi ,Futura and what not you decide to put on your hair, realize that it is NOT your hair. I get excited with hair and after six weeks the hair goes in the garbage can, so whether it is Italian, Nigerian, Brazilian hair it is not your hair. 


Wednesday, February 1, 2012

BLACKBERRY PORSCHE

It’s a new month and I woke up this morning to see the picture of this brand new Blackberry innovation. Sleek!!!!!!!!! This phone is not meant  for people selling goods in the market or a typical college student or a people who are living from hand to mouth but trying to keep up with the Jones’s. This is not a phone for having money this month and being broke next month. This is for tHose top of the notch executives, imagine a CEO of a corporation using the same phone that a college student carries in their pocket. Hmmm!!! Levels, so Blackberry came up with a solution and brought out not the Mercedes version but Porsche.
So what are the features oh!!!
 1.2GHz Qualcomm MSM8655 CPU and 768MB of RAM,
 2.8-inch touchscreen with a resolution of 640 x 480
 1,230mAh battery, GPS, NFC and 
5MP rear camera with an LED flash and 720p HD video capture.
And so???? 768 MB of Ram. Abeg I will keep my desktop at home.



Also apart from whatever material that was used to build the chassis of this product that makes it expensive ( Lord knows what it is), I would personally not buy it. Prospective husband please use this money to buy my engagement ring or invest it towards something productive and rewarding (smile). What is the essence of the phone, is it not to receive and make phone calls, text and just be accessible?  Valentines Day is coming up in 13 days and I know some UK and Middle Eastern girls will want a man to prove their love by buying them is new expensive machine. While you are doing that I will be here * chewing my gum and rolling my eyes* until you wake up.


Anyway  I read Tunde Ednut’s tweet about a guy who bought the phone today and broke the phone within a few hours of the same day. You want evidence.


Courtsey: Tunde Ednut Tweet
After my above statement. Are you still going to buy the phone?
By the way Happy New Year and New Month.